If you know someone who is grieving the death of someone close you may wonder how best to support them.
Here are some suggestions of what to say and do.
People who have been bereaved may want to talk about the person who has died. One of the most helpful things you can do is simply listen, and give them time and space to grieve.
Do.
Be there for the person who is grieving, pick up the phone, write a letter or an email, call by or arrange to visit.
Accept that everyone grieves in their own way, there is no normal way.
Encourage the person to talk.
Listen to the person.
Create an environment in which the bereaved person can be themselves and show their feelings, rather than having to put on a front.
Be aware that grief can take a long time.
Contact the person at difficult times such as special anniversaries and birthdays.
Don't:
Avoid someone who has been bereaved.
Use words like 'I understand how you feel', 'Time heals', 'You'll get over it'.
Tell them it's time to move on, they should be over it by how.
Be alarmed if the bereaved person doesn’t want to talk or demonstrates anger.
Underestimate how emotionally draining it can be when supporting a grieving person.
